Manasvi

Memories are silly things. Life needs good memories to be livable though if the head is full of bad memories and good memories are scarce that doesn't mean life is unlivable. One has to choose to live a good life nevertheless. People in depths of mental health crises experience absence of happiness and happy memories, some take drugs, some alcohol and try to make their lived experience livable and drugs and alcohol are just acute management when the problem is deeper. To persist without happiness and happy memories one has to be able to like themselves. Here is the rule: only good people do not like themselves and this is because they employ the same moral judgement that they employ in general on themselves. Narcissists and psychopaths love themselves, they are extremely selfish and hypocritical and they would do as much harm they can to other person for their slight convenience or slight difficulty or disturbance. And unfortunately in a survival oriented society it is them who end up winning. For good people it is extremely important to know the principles and ideals they function on. There are two types of sadness, one psychosocial origin of which cannot be traced and one personal grief, based on personal losses and failures. One might argue that life is not that important, but the real thing is when one sees the truth of the society and realises the kind of scum who are not only living but also thriving at the expense of others especially the innocent deciding to live the best life one can live among whatever constraints one has seems to be the only option. People who take one's own life are judged harshly in the society but the truth is that life can get extremely hard, so hard that there seems to be no other way than to take one's life though this scenario is not as common as suicides are, what one thinks to be the end might not be and it could be only known if it is or it is not by going through it and taking one's life ends that opportunity. Good people who live by the same rules that they have for the world, the ones who are not hypocrites must learn to navigate spaces filled with narcissists and psychopaths. It's important to go easy on oneself sometimes and it is important to have fun. If one doesn't have good and happy memories there are other ways to feel better than drugs and alcohol also happy memories can be created and it all begins by starting to do things that makes one like themselves.